MANGO-BANANA SMOOTHIE

YO......I Had lots of different fruits in the pantry so i decided to go all "tryxects" .I am capable of making anything from anything,in the name of not wasting food..I have made a plum smoothie before,ask my hubs...

so il call my smoothie..mango banana- smoothie..

characters include.
2 Bananas
2mangoes
half an orange
half a glass of milk



PROCEDURE
*DICE/Slice the characters mango,banana and put them into the blender.
*Squeeze in the orange/lemon juice,i didnt have lemons so i used an orange..main point is the9the citrus flavour)
*pulse away budyy.
*Add the milk...then pulse away...
*Tadaa your smoothie is set.

*VERDICT----Super sweet n healthy

hubs n I lovvved the smoothie.

you can sort this up here like a ten year old:)D

THE OTHER SIDE OF BLISS

BLISS-This is a time when the marriage relationship is characterized by elements of fun,enjoyment,happiness,delight,pleasure,harmony,closeness and oneness.This is where most couples want their relationship to be paged.

THE OTHER SIDE OF BLISS-This is a time when a married couple's relationship experiences moments of unhappiness,sadness,violence,depression,gloom,agony,loss of a job or a loved one,grief sickness,bad times,communication breakdown,sorrow,distress,misfortune,suffering,aggression and deprivation.Such moments may be sporadic and short lived or prolonged and harsh.This is where most couples dread to be but yet find themselves living their lives.When poorly handled,the events in this part of the marriage life could push your marriage to a separation or Divorce.

I have just shared the introductory part of a book by the Kitoto's that i am currently reading,its called the other side of bliss..Its a real book but can be a bit scary especially if you are planning to get married,maybe it can make you change your mind..muhahaha..take heart Grace abounds. lol..

This book is full of stories of christian married couples and their experience of the other side of bliss.I guess on your wedding day when you are busy reciting the vows,you don't really have time to think about them,like when you say in sickness and in health you never really think about the sickness part..or rather you think sickness is malaria or a cold n oh well,you have medical cover!!!!wait up,Accidents happen daily on our roads,We will all give J.Gichuru airtime as she is doing a report on Road carnage and really get saddened and shocked and yet whatever she reports is just a drop in the ocean.Very many families get affected daily with this "national disaster'i don't know if its been declared a national disaster but hey!!!it is!!.I doubt any of us would think ati our spouses or ourselves can get involved in an accident n never get to walk again..gasp!!God forbid..but you know what ??when you say in sickness n in health,till death do us part,that is exactly what you are signing up for.As we speak,my blood brother not brother in Christ was in involved in a road accident 5months ago..oct 13..and has never walked up to this moment,will he be able to walk again??Only God knows,he still cannot grasp anything with his hands..yes he has a wife!!!Did the wife sign up for this??No she didn't..is it frustrating?yes it is,BUT She committed to stick thru..It can be any of us!!you know..So what am i saying,Marriage is for life and just like life we are not promised a bumpy free ride,tough days will come,easy days will come..One thing is for Sure when Christ is in it,its much easier to walk this life coz on our own,we cant make it,On our own we will give up on the way..we have seen many giving up,we shouldn't judge them but pray for them...Let me get back to my real and scary book"The other side of bliss"..I shall share a few stories from it.

ALL COUPLES FIGHT!!

I like my topic,all couples fight!good couples fight clean,bad couples fight dirty.fighting dirty can be from hitting below the belt to you throw a pen to me,i throw 2pens to you,you throw a book,a throw a cup,you throw a slipper,i throw a shoe,you throw a stool..lol..i squeeze you with our 6 by 6 bed at the corner...muhaha.I call you bugger,you call me stupid,i tell you good for nothing.you call me senseless,mean,i hate you...bla bla bla..i hope you get my drift dirty  fighting escalates as fast as a Boeing 777 on a good day.

Funny thing is in the ideal head of some people,Christian couples don't fight,I was talking to some lady and she told me her she can t imagine fighting with her hubby,that she will always be praying to God to be an awesome wise not quarrelsome nor a fighter...Good for you buddy!!lets talk when you cross over that was my response!

Thing is as long as we are human,different backgrounds,personalities,preference et all at one point or another we shall disagree not once not twice however deeply in love we are hence!!ALL COUPLES FIGHT.good couples fight clean bad couples fight dirty..I have a million examples on top of my head of when we've had conflict with the hubs..of when each of us responded maturely or immaturely but that's a story for another day..its like 0200hrs..and that's not the aim of my post today.

Today I am talking about conflict resolution,not that i have perfected it but that I am still learning and enjoying the lessons.

Resolving conflicts requires forgiveness-Giving up the right to punish the one who wronged you.This is the miracle of the Christian life-that we can heal our relationships with others with others in the same way christ healed our relationship with him-through forgiveness.

AUTHENTIC COMMUNICATION is much more than just talking,its understanding,being understood,identifying a tone of voice,detecting non verbal cues,responding appropriately to offence,resolving conflicts,knowing what to say,when to say it and how to say it.
It is experiencing the risks of and rewards of knowing and being known.
*Authentic communication means that the listener employs clarifying and summary questions.
*Resolving conflict requires a determination to lovingly confront each other.
*Resolving conflict requires forgiveness


"Be angry and yet do not in;do not let the sun go down on your anger(eph4:26)

The Bible has much to say about the act of communicating ,because God knew it would not be a skill that comes easily for us .we've got to work at it.But in doing so,we grow in our dependence upon him and in our relationship with others.

In marriage,it's common for both individuals to react to conflict in different ways.which one are you??n what do you need to do?lol

FIGHT TO WIN:This is the "I won,you lose,or I'm right,you're wrong" position.You seek to dominate the other person;personal relationships take second place to the need of triumph.

WITHDRAW:You seek to avoid discomfort at all costs,saying,I'm uncomfortable,so il get out."You see no hope of resolving the conflict,or you lack the strength to confront it.So you cope by giving your mate the silent treatment.

YIELD:You assume it is fare better to go along with the other person's demands than to risk a confrontation.Rather than start another argument,you say,"whatever you want is fine."To you,a safe feeling is more important than a close relationship.

LOVINGLY RESOLVE:You commit to resolving the conflict by taking steps to carefully and sensitively discuss the issue.Resolving a conflict requires a special attitude-one of humility,of placing the relationship at a higher priority than the conflict itself.(what goes the relationship or the issue?)You value your relationship more than winning or losing,escaping or feeling comfortable.

With three of these styles,you actually create as many problems as you solve.Fighting to win,withdrawing or yielding may allow you to deal temporarily with the conflict at hand,but you haven't dealt with the emotions the conflict sparked-the hurt,the resentment and the anger.Only when you seek to confront each other in a loving way will you resolve a conflict.

Let us strive,go back to the basics of communication skills..strive to understand and be understood,you don't have to raise your voice to be heard!D:)Let us strive to reduce on the number of mama drama and baba drama.*i can write a book on mama drama*points to self*

29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.eph4:29

James 1:19-My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

A Time for Everything

1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: 

OPERATION 2014!HAPPY NEW YEAR?YES!

Happy new year.Over the years i have learned that it seizes being a new year when i get to meet you for the second time between jan and April.If ibumped into you in mid march and that is the first time i am seeing you that year,then i would greet you in the name of"happynewyear"P
My friend back at artlifeneema.blogspot.com has come up with a list of 100 things she wants to accomplish this year,that is ambitious for me ,i will remember to follow her up on this story in like 04months time to see how she is doing in that regard..it will be fun to hear.I personally havent written down a list but i think i should just write my desires and requests fo this year in my 2014 all important stuff journal,it will be fun to read through come December this year.One of the things that i have intentionally done in this new year was to deactivate my facebook account,not that i was super active,or an addict,but lets just say fbk has power:)D,so my main reason for this is so that i make good use of my cell phone,i want to get the phone and dial a friend's number and just hit vybe,and vice versa.I do not want to be complacent with seeing your fb status update,your selfie photos,your tagged photos some of your wall posts,like some,comment on others and assume that you are well,that we are still friends,that im uppdated on whats cutting in your life coz of foursquare"fridz checked in at jkia arrival lounge,so yah!!one my 2014 activities is to be less on fb n more on my phone calling and texting..so far soooooo goooood,this far i have visited with a few,i have texted n called n i have been visited and yeeeah,it feels sooo nice and fullfilling:)bonding and catching up,i love fellowship.Toast to a year of NOT FORSAKING FELLOWSHIP!

Project Merry-go-round...I want to accomplish two things that are major for me and they require mony like more than 20k..so what i did i got 05pals,sold to them the idea of a chama/merry go round..5k per month 06 ladies..meaning you get 30keach twice a year..i can hardly wait for this to be fruitful n for me to fullfill my goals.

Project Titus2:One of the verses that is close to my heart)T2),so this year,i intentionally got together a few of my younger lady friends and started a bible study with them,we shall strictly be meeting once in every two months for a time of sharing,bonding and praying((( but how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker,the light if you are covered with a bushel basket,and the leaven if you never get into the loaf?Its time to let God fully have his way with us..

Project make use of my camera..Doing receipes and documenting,trying crazy stuff in the kitchen"1st seen in Fridz's kitchen,soon putting a few of my recipes up on this page n guess what??im having one of my pals come with like 4of her other friends for a cookout in my house on one of the friday's in february??aint that cool??this operation fbk out is doing me some goood.meeting people

Project colour my hair maroon..whole head!nuff said!

Before i get to Esther Neema's 100 mark,let me penoff and do some reading!
blessings

But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

I am convinced that we can change the nation by responding to God’s call. But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

I am convinced that we can change the nation by responding to God’s call. But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

I am convinced that we can change the nation by responding to God’s call. But how can you be the salt if you never get out of the shaker, the light if you are covered with a bushel basket, and the leaven if you never get into the loaf? It is time to let God have His way fully with us, to surrender absolutely to His plan for our lives. - See more at: http://www.titus2minutes.com/#sthash.T1CY3lHE.dpuf

AN EGG,A CARROT AND COFFEE

Story

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her.

She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Have you ever felt that way?

-- Job 14:1 Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble.

Her mother took her to the kitchen.
She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.
Soon the pots came to boil.

In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.
She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.
She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.

She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it.
After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity ... boiling water. Each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?