"So,howz married life??"part 1

i LOVE MY TOPIC..LOL..its been almost 6months.ok 8days to click exactly six months since i said i do to the most amaizing man ever,and oh yes iit been amazing amazing amazing.
im almost done with paragraph one and my thoughts are still abit scattered..lol
once you get married,it kinda feels like there is this new big question in town. so,how is married life" think i used to ask my friends the same quetion,,no,wait,i never used to ask that exact q,i actually used to ask specifics,like how is sex?how does it fel to always be together/??do u fight??over wat???etc..but ya.i only get a few to ask directly as i use to ..i noticed every newlywed gets to be asked the big Q"SO,HOW IS MARRIED LIFE,spare some kidogo time bana,this is a learning curve..by 1month you you honestly still cant answer that question,ok its different for everybody,i have a pal who was hukus crying week one after getting home fom honeymoon,she felt overwhelmed by all the cooking while her hubby was huko's relaxing in the living room chilling for food..another one went for house work counselling end of month one coz she felt like a house help!do not be too fast to laugh!!wait for your experience or look back at your experience..i believe people have different expectations or some dont think about it..depending with personality,background etc etc..some of us calculate our steps before we get there..like sooo dear head lets do an open ended case scenario of our new life .personally i had to psycologically prep my self to be preparing breakfast,i have never really been a breakfast person or ever been in a position to wake up earlier to prep tea before..but now i had todid it for a week,amonth,2moths 5months and im still doing it..its now become part of me..its called adjustments.but still it takes adjusting...I asked another pal of one thing she would say about adjustments and she told me"even if you have dated for 7years..buyaaa..you do not know that man..when you start living together,thats when you will start the journey of knowing him..sorry thats when you begin the journey of knowing each other..so honey..stop givinhg us that excuse while dating,ati"we r still getting to know each other better n you have been dating for 4years"give us another reason..spare us tha one...
      I was talking to a pal of mine(been talking to many pals...clearly) who told me that she came up with a permanent answer to the question"how is married life"her answer was"ITS A LEARNING CURVE' so i stole her line and put it in my purse and use it when need be. truth be told it is a learning curve.tried and tested
 Another line i got recently,now this is personal inspiration..howz is marrioed life my answer"ADJUSTMENTS GALORE"Maybe all this sounds cliche but truth is they aint cliche ni "ukweli mtupu"pure truth
         In my few months in marriage i have come to learn one profound truth 'A good marriage,just like anything worthwhile,takes doing the right things EVERYDAY...EVERYHOUR...EVERYMOMENT..you can clearly see what i i mean when i say learning curve etc etc.

       Honestly there is alot of "cliche that is very true in marriage..like"you have to work at it"boooyah..ask me about it..things dont just work themselves...ai..if  you dont work at it..IT AINT HAPPENING DARLING..If  dont plan to spend time with hubby we will soon become strangers,if i do not clean my house often it will become a coackroach/rat haven,If i dont go out to get groceries in the market in good time..il end up buying 1onion for 15bob at my estate gate while at the market onions worth 200bob will push me for almost 2months.(verb-world)talk about intentionality..you have to be intentional about quite everything..In my head as long as you are married,you automatically spend enough time together and wont experience dramas for"oh we no longer spend time together,we no longer do fun activities.Honest truth is,even though you live in the same house,sleep on the same bed..you can easily be srangers,perfect strangers or is it housemates??you see the way at some point in life dad leaves the house early in the morning and comes back when ur in bed or almost turning in..yes!!yes!!you gotta make it work.
You basically have to adjust to almost to every life aspect(hanging out with ur gals..next post)
..hubby is a night person and im more of an early to bed and early to rise is the way to make you healthy n wealthy and wise..lol...so most often than not hubby has to sacrifice all his energy aand turn in at ten coz his wife wants to turn in..yes love equals sacrifice..i love stewed liver hubby loves fried liver..we have to find a way of balancing that out..so if this time we do fried,next time we do stewed..most often than not im the chief chef and honest truth is at times im tempted to stew stew and stew,,but hey love equals sacrifice.i used to iron my clothes when i need to put them on.Hubby prefers ironing straight from the clothes line,cough*cough*...one of those hard adjustments for me..but hey i wonna be "that wife'im trying,i promise i am"Hubby has a particular way he prefers his shirts hang on the line,almost took a pictorila tutorial for this..i gotta remind myself everytime wen hanging his clothes on the line,coz trust me he will know if i dont.Some adjustments are easy,others need sacrifice,others are a daily thingie..but thez grace..marriage is a school..adjusting to living together is fun in different ways..cant wait to look back 10years later.

    Adjusting to married life is a very interesting process in more ways than one.
 I believe every newly-wed couple goes through the same process of adjusting like we do And at times i wished someone could have told me what exactly to expect, so that I would feel like I was better prepared. You know how you ask your friends who recently got married, "So how is married life?" and they just say "It's fine, it's wonderful!". You wish they would say more, but you don't know how to ask. The truth is though, that no matter how much people tell you before, you have to experience some things for yourself.

 There is alot to adjusting..will continue in my next post:)keep it locked