Sometimes
learning to rest in God’s timing, especially when we are young and
single (well, it is true at any age or circumstance) can be a very
trying thing. So much in our culture focuses ladies on having a
boyfriend and, eventually, a husband. The pressure from our friends, our
families, our classmates, movies, books, billboards and society at
large is tremendous and all point to telling us that we cannot possibly
be happy without a boy/man in our lives.
But then the contrary is also true; society tells us that we DO NOT need a man in our lives to be happy. We are encouraged to get out of the home after we are married and have children. We are discouraged from staying home and being a keeper at home or a stay-at-home mom. We are encouraged to relinquish our responsibilities for raising our children to professionals in the world. Basically, every aspect of the world is available to tell us how we need to be discontent with whatever situation in our life we are experiencing. Advertising is geared toward breeding discontentment and all the world’s views of male/female relationships is exactly the same – always trying to get us to believe that if onlys are really true.
Our biggest problem in our lives today is that we do not view our singleness as a gift. Oh we may SAY that someone who has been single their whole life had the gift of singleness, but we do not view the short years that WE are single as a gift from God. We look at our lives with irritation, frustration and impatience. We think that our real life will not begin until we are married. This leads us to jumping in to the first relationship that comes our way because we are afraid we will not get married. Regardless of our age, we think that our lives are worthless and meaningless until we get married. We fall in love with the idea of being in love first and find the first person who can jump into that role instead of waiting for God’s timing.*pls dont get "God's timing twisted**yes girls**
You can have the gift to be married, but you still don’t have the gift of a wife yet.” prepare yourself to be a wife/learn how to cook..et all without the cares of the world to distract you.
if God gives you the desire to get married, He is faithful and trustworthy and capable to fulfill that desire whenever and however He chooses. If you are willing to trust in His fulfillment, then you can trust in his timing too. King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)
Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.
But then the contrary is also true; society tells us that we DO NOT need a man in our lives to be happy. We are encouraged to get out of the home after we are married and have children. We are discouraged from staying home and being a keeper at home or a stay-at-home mom. We are encouraged to relinquish our responsibilities for raising our children to professionals in the world. Basically, every aspect of the world is available to tell us how we need to be discontent with whatever situation in our life we are experiencing. Advertising is geared toward breeding discontentment and all the world’s views of male/female relationships is exactly the same – always trying to get us to believe that if onlys are really true.
- If only I had a boyfriend I would be happy
- If only I were engaged my life would be filled with joy
- If only I were married all my dreams would be fulfilled
- If only I had the home of my dreams I know I would reach my goals
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Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to
be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. … But I
want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is
concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but
one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he
may please his wife, and his interests are divided. The woman who is
unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord,
that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is
concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but
to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to
the Lord. 1 Cor 7:27, 32-35
Paul is talking about our
focus, about our devotion to the Lord. When we are single, we are free
to go anywhere at any time to minister to someone, to share the gospel
with someone, to teach the scriptures to someone. In short, our time is
free to do with as the Lord guides us, unencumbered by the needs and
desires of anyone else. I do not have to make supper for someone or
pick someone up from School/functions et all. If I skip a meal while reaching out to someone else, it matters
only to me and I will not mind if I am in service to the Lord. I do
not have to skip a bible study because of a
sick child or be home by a certain time to get little ones to bed/cook. I
am free to pour my life into others and have the energy to be a source
of strength and vitality for the lost
needing a loving and listening ear.Globetrotting,/hanging out with friends,*just doing things/important things.Our biggest problem in our lives today is that we do not view our singleness as a gift. Oh we may SAY that someone who has been single their whole life had the gift of singleness, but we do not view the short years that WE are single as a gift from God. We look at our lives with irritation, frustration and impatience. We think that our real life will not begin until we are married. This leads us to jumping in to the first relationship that comes our way because we are afraid we will not get married. Regardless of our age, we think that our lives are worthless and meaningless until we get married. We fall in love with the idea of being in love first and find the first person who can jump into that role instead of waiting for God’s timing.*pls dont get "God's timing twisted**yes girls**
You can have the gift to be married, but you still don’t have the gift of a wife yet.” prepare yourself to be a wife/learn how to cook..et all without the cares of the world to distract you.
if God gives you the desire to get married, He is faithful and trustworthy and capable to fulfill that desire whenever and however He chooses. If you are willing to trust in His fulfillment, then you can trust in his timing too. King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)
Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.
Lovely,and encore!!!!!!
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